A Moment of Clarity Can Become a Lifetime of Clarity – Kelly K

There is a price to be paid, though.

If anyone out there is thinking they will see their loved ones go to treatment and achieve these goals in less than one year, then please think about these changes and determine for yourself what reality is.

If you want your loved one to be

  • safe and healthy
  • clean and sober
  • productive
  • self supporting
  • in healthy relationships
  • with healthy routines
  • have good self confidence
  • and perhaps just a little more kind all the way around…

What do you honestly think is an appropriate amount of time for someone to make these changes?

Any parent or loved one that has tried helping an alcoholic or drug addict will tell you that if they had the option to do it all over again and send their loved one to a one year program that would greatly increase the odds of long term sobriety – they would do it in a heartbeat.

Many clients will go to two, three, or even four 30 day programs before they will consider a extended care step down treatment program. When you contemplate this scenario, don’t forget that there will often be attorney fees, doctors and hospital bills, vehicles, apartments, houses etc.

We want to believe our loved ones when they tell us they know what’s good for them. Who in their right mind would like to go to a place they have never been before for drug rehab and commit to one year? Especially when given a variety of options like

  • a 30 days program
  • a one year  program (with a step down treatment setting)
  •  an outpatient program
Who in their right mind would like to go to a place they have never been before for drug rehab and commit to one year?

That being said you are starting to understand why I am writing this. What is reality and what are the odds. It is part of alcoholics or drug addicts make up to want to take the easier softer way.

We want what we want (and when we want it now!)

For many of us we believe our own delusions and can be very convincing that we mean what we say (this time will be different).
What is the reality of the situation? The reality is that treatment change offer services that will allow them to make a profit.  If the truth were told, one year of treatment (at a considerable cost) is what would seriously improve the odds of success.

Most treatment centers  would go out of business if they required this type of treatment regimen. Most clients would not accept the time frame or the cost. The client would look for second opinions until someone promised them  success in 30-60 days at a fraction of the cost.

Saving 60% on nothing is still nothing. “Half measures availed us nothing.

Many of us who have had a long road to recovery already know what “band aid treatment” has done in the past. Slowly but surely, the treatment world is becoming more willing to tell the truth.

I was watching a TV program the other night where Dr. P— was counseling a recent star who is having problems.  This star is paying legal and other consequences  because of their addiction.  Dr. P— suggested they admit themselves into step down treatment for 12-18 months.

I was shocked someone had the nerve to tell the truth. And the truth is that if treatment facilities told the truth – they might go out of business.

Well I believe the world is ready for the truth. We all want the similar things – even the treatment centers. We all want for your loved one to be

  • safe and healthy
  • clean and sober
  • productive
  • self supporting
  • in healthy relationships
  • with healthy routines
  • have good self confidence
  • and perhaps just a little more kind all the way around…

Even the easiest treatment cases would build a strong foundation. Though, in most cases a year is just about right to achieve all these desires and changes.

People in the world today are becoming wiser investors and people are also becoming hip to how deadly and devastating addiction can be.

If they are going to invest in getting a loved one clean and sober, it is about time people start getting realistic.  The reality is – addicts can be “spun dried”  (ie. we can get the alcoholic and addict off the booze or drugs for a couple of weeks). The reality is that we as alcoholics and drug addicts have “living problems” and unnamed fears. Where is the change really going to come from in a 2 week or 1 month program?

 

We recommend allowing for “time and a proven plan that involves a series of actions that will help the person to obtain a style of living that is genuinely healthy” (there is still no pill for this as of this writing).

We all have problems – though few are as deadly as alcoholism and drug addiction.

And these problems that normal folks have do not just go away. How many fad diets are there out there today? What really works?

I have been working at Sober Living by the Sea for almost 7 years now, and our Primary Extended Care Program starts with a 90 day stay. Most of our clients choose to stay longer.  Many stay with us a year or more. I love Sober Living by the Sea and I hope that we will be advertising a 9, 12, and 18 month packages sin the future. We are leaders in the field.

Our business is to superimpose reality on those afflicted with addiction.

I feel that the new programs will be met with open minds; I also have faith in the world and believe people are smart enough to realize the truth and what it will take to make the changes that need to be made when addiction has other plans.

The best perception of reality is that we will win the war ,one day at a time, always.

 

– Kelly K